What is emotional instability?
Emotional Instability is a process in which your emotions extremely vacillate or fluctuate and you are having mood swings, this moment you are in different or angry and the next minute you are happy or sad.
Being emotionally unstable can be a sign of personality disorder, childhood trauma, depression or anxiety disorder.
Signs of emotional instability
1. Intense anger mood swings
This vary between dysphoria and euphoria and from manic self confidence to severe anxiety and irritability. It is important to recognise the signs and support them when necessary, it is also essential that while we render assistant, we don’t allow their behaviour to affect us and others.
2. Impulsive actions
They may do things that could harm themselves and others without thinking through or even realising. For example, they may drive extremely fast, or under the influence of drugs/ alcohol, their impulsive actions are much more likely to be geared towards danger, also prone to impulsive spending, they could suddenly decide to go on reckless spending and gambling, they have no self control and often not aware and don’t understand delayed gratification. These actions however makes them feel good for a moment because they are unstable.
3. Anger issues.
Difficulty controlling how they express anger, they may snap back and forth between being angry and being extremely happy, they are not able to control their emotions in a healthy way and sometimes a sudden outbursts of laughter or sadness and their anger is most often damaging, when they are angry, they become a danger to the people around them, they result to violent behaviour causing harm to themselves and others. The reactions also depends on individual, while some result to physical violence and destructive behaviour that cause other people harm, others may create uneasiness by maybe slamming the door, yelling and shouting or push objects.
4. Have relationship issues
People with emotional instability have problems maintaining relationships, they may feel affectionate towards a person and at the same time feel a sense of resentment towards them. They are in and out of relationships. There is always domestic violence and shouting matches, their relationship often involves intense argument and rage, split and coming back together again and the circle continues.
4. Extreme reactions
They react extremely to real and perceived situations.
How to effectively heal from emotional instability
The most effective way to tackle emotional instability may be through conscious, psychological and neurological realms. The brain stores memories about events and sensations and we also have the ego to contend with which is the mind’s way of regulating our physical activities. Ego make us feel everything is right here right now, but the brain think in terms of time and space, so much of what we think in reality is bullshit. Teaching people with this issue different breathing techniques can help to gradually alleviate their suffering.
Sometimes we get fired up because we have not been taught the information that is true nor have we been taught information in a way our brains can understand it as this may attempt to make people wake up to the fact that so much that they think is real is not real at all, it is bullshit. We are 95% unconscious but our brains doesn’t think it’s a conflict. You are a psychological being and if you try to heal only from a psychological angle, you are going to experience a conflict because you are not going to understand that healing is also technical, meaning neurological, meaning that it’s going to take some time to create new memories and have those memories shut from the hippocampus, short term memory, to the long term memory which is the pre-cortex and the frontal lobes. It’s going to take time, we don’t know these stuff, we are taught in terms of our faith, we are taught that our power is outside of us, no it is not, our power is within us. The same infinite intelligence is inside you. It is important that those of us who are in pain, heal because we are in illusory world, the world of the material and until we learn the skills that we need before we can be able to resolve all the problems staring on our faces, to go inside is what we need to do, if you have so much ache, low self esteem, shame and other stuff which is not your stuff, religious grooming of acquiescing and enabling dysfunctional behaviour, where you can’t say no to what is not right for you, make you feel you are not good enough, people think if two people are sick of maybe cancer, one survives the other dies, it’s God that allows that, no. God is not choosing and dropping, we need to understand what is happening in the illusory world. If you are someone who has at some point thought maybe the power is within me you are a fortunate human being because majority can’t imagine life outside this illusion.
The ego triggers and override the brain (hippocampus), the ego reaction triggers us, we can’t think because cortisone adrenaline is flooding our brain stem and our body is having different responses and taking over the idea that you are responsible for what is happening in your body, this is not true, you can become conscious of what is happening and learn to navigate it and manipulate it and have more control deliberately by observing it from a high state of awareness, you can also calm your brain by learning how to meditate to make it become less sensitive to triggers. Too much identification with the ego is the major causes of emotional instability. The ego mind create fear, anxiety and worry, it is concerned with people’s judgement of you and that can trigger a reaction, cause people to shame others and make them feel a sense of low self worth, become anxious in certain situations and lose confidence.
Spending time frequently with non judgemental and empathic people can also help.
Giving them opportunities to express themselves and show how they feel.
Listening to them and showing them love and compassion.