Healing from Abusive relationship: What to do

 

Abuse does not only occurs in man and wife relationships or partners, there is also child abuse which is often inflicted on children by adults.

 

What is an abusive relationship?

Abusive relationship is an unhealthy relationship which involves different types of abusive behaviour and coercion by one person, in order to gain power and exert control over the other. Abuse in a relationship could be psychological, physical, emotional, financial, verbal and sexual.

Characteristics of an abusive relationship?

Abusive relationships are often characterized by Domestic violence, threats, intimidation, humiliation and isolation.

Generally, abusive relationship are often toxic and involves violence. One or both partners are usually controlling, one partner wanting to control and dominate the other, the controlling partner tend to command and orders the other around, chose their friends for them and restrict their movements. They tend to be jealous and obsessed with them.

The abusive partner has dysfunctional behaviour, always in the habit of criticizing, shaming and blaming the other. They are never pleased, they tend to put down the other partner with the kind of words they say.

They demand for sex all the time and forcing their partner to accept unhealthy sexual habits, seeking constant attention which deprives the other person the time to take care of his or her own needs.

This also includes, when one partner gives the other silent treatment or threatens to end the relationship until he gets what he wants, withholding sex, intentionally starting argument and causing drama to provoke the other, raging and gaslighting the other person.

 

How to know if you are in abusive relationship

If you feel fearful and afraid for your life, you may be in abusive relationship.

Do you feel undeserving and blaming yourself for unfilled expectations? You may be in abusive relationship.

Do you feel isolated and world wary, are you doing everything possible to please a person but their reaction leaves you feeling confused and frustrated?

Are you feeling drained, sad and exhausted in the relationship yet the thought of leaving terrifies you?

Verbal abuse -Does your partner or parents name call and yell at you, make threats, belittle and blame you?

Physical abuse- Are you being hit with  objects, punched or kicked, choked or strangulated?

Sexual abuse- Are you being raped, shaming with demeaning sexual remarks, incest?

What to do to heal from Abusive relationship

1. Leave the abusive situation. Leaving gives you the opportunity to claim your power back. You can remain a victim or choose not to, the choice is yours.

2. Reframe from making anyone wrong and don’t beat yourself up or anyone else because in every unpleasant situation, there is an opportunity for growth. Then you have got to ask yourself why you attracted that person in the first place, what are you to learn from that experience? Allow everyone to grow and evolve, learn the lesson and move on.

3. Think of anything that you are dealing with in your life at the moment, stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and accept the situation, be compassionate and loving to yourself, feel whatever comes through and let it go. Forgive and make a commitment to yourself never to disappoint yourself and put yourself in such a mess again.

Cease from carrying the sorry forward in disempowering way.

Abusive relationships can be challenging and quite difficult to manage or sustained, they always leave the parties with a shroud of hate even after separation, it is important to stay away from such relationships as quickly as possible to safeguard your mental health, they are dysfunctional and often take a toll not only on your mental health but also emotional, physical and psychological health. These kinds of relationships are unpredictable, death could easily occur given it prevalence to violence, moving away and healing is essential for whoever find his or herself in such a situation.

 

 

 

 

 

Action and Consequences: Do we Bear Consequences of our Choices

 

What is an action

Action is something we carry out, what we do on our own volition as individuals and this includes the decisions and choices we make in our daily lives which also affect us individually and collectively, immediately and in a long term.

The Third Law of Motion states that ” For Every Action, there is an equal and opposite reaction” The reaction constituting a consequence of the action.

Any action a person takes, is always going to create an outcome resulting from that action. This science principle cut across all areas of life and in spirituality giving credence to the laws of the universe.

“Whatever we sow is what we reap” and the Law of gravity, “What goes up, comes down”.

Whatever vibration we send to the universe is what we attract. ” Likes attract likes”. What a person ruminates with vibrationally attracts, what we give out comes back to us.

All these goes to say that as we think so we are and what we give out we receive because our actions are constantly being rewarded good or bad.

Consequences

Consequences are results or outcomes of our own actions and choices. Every action has a consequence and every choice has a corresponding consequence. Our decisions and choices create and produces outcomes which may impact others positively or causes infringement or a negative impact.

The duality of the universe creates two opposing polarities of which one is action and the other consequence.

We are consistently reaping the rewards of our doings and if we understand this it becomes necessary for us to begin to guide our actions and pay attention and be mindful of the things we do.

How does our actions affect others

Our actions affect other people in different ways. Even though people often suffer the consequences of our hurtful actions, whatever, pleasant and unpleasant situations and circumstances we cause others to experience, we actually embody it, if our creations gives them favourable outcomes, we are enormously rewarded and if such creations cause them suffering and pain, we are also rewarded but this reward often manifest in form of punishment to complement the action.

Do we bear the consequences of our actions?

Often times people make terrible choices but tend to avoid the consequences of their creation, they don’t remember or probably not aware that all choices have their consequences, some may have immediate consequences and others may be in future and when later in life they start to show up, instead of the people involved to find reasonable ways and approach to deal with and resolve them, the rather begin to take it on other people, create more problems and blame others for their own actions and the situations they have created. This however, does not only happen to individuals, it is common with people who are leaders taking decisions in different capacities that binds their followers.

It is important that people generally, irrespective of their position exercise caution and be thoughtful in their individual and collective choices and be aware of what they are creating just in case the later consequences are grave and appalling, they will be able to navigate them.

How does duality affect our choices

Everything in existence has its opposite. Just as we experience the good, we also experience the bad. We have the light and the dark. The strong and the weak, the same way our actions are expected to produce intended results according to our creations.

 

Positive Emotional Empathy and Draining Emotional Empathy: How to show it.

There are two types of empathy.

 

Positive Emotional Empathy

Positive or Emotional empty is an emotional reaction to the pain of another. This occurs when one person is hurting and another takes on the energy of that person, in other words, feels the pain of the person and develop an emotional reaction to it. It is feeling what others feel and internalizing.

Positive and Emotional empathy function this way; When an individual begin to randomly takes on the energy of others and internalize their experience, they don’t only imagine how they feel but have emotional reaction to something they could just empathize and move on. You take on the energy of other people because you feel what they are going through and this can cause them to develop a kind of sickness, some people go into depression due to this emotional reaction they have for other people’s troubles.

It’s something to feel, empathize and encourage but it’s not something to internalize and it becomes your problem.

In Positive Emotional Empathy we develop and grow in our relationship skills, here we just don’t get caught up by our emotions, we process the emotion as we are feeling it, we don’t allow it to register in our brains.

This is where you love a person, feel for them but make them participate in their own outcome. You teach them to tap their own resources.

Positive Emotional Empathy is when you feel for a person and you have an intelligent response that helps them to help themselves for example, ‘ I understand you… I feel you… But I am not going to take your energy into me and go there with you, that is not going to help me nor help you either, it’s not my issue it’s your problem, I am not going to deplete myself to get you out of whatever it is you are in. I am going to feel, love you enough to show you how to meet your own needs.

In Positive emotional empathy you don’t become an enabler of bad behaviour but you simply have a cognitive response to what is going, you are not going to use emotional response here, either “I cry because you are crying” Because it’s not going to help any of us but I am going to help you make an intelligent choice that could change your life. In John 5:2-9 ‘Jesus had a cognitive and spiritual response to the man at the pool.’ He didn’t help or touched him but he showed him how to get well.

In Positive emotional empathy, you love with boundaries. Here you do not have to deplete yourself of what God has given you, what you have worked for or set yourself backward to fix another.

It means you are going to love that person enough to tell them the truth, if they accept it fine and if they don’t is left to them because you are not going to allow them to infringe into your life as we all have the responsibility to do certain things for ourselves. And you are going to still love them where they are with boundaries.

It is important that know that this boundary can also be applied to even your growing children as well as your close relations. It is improper to spend your entire life trying to fix and manage someone else, they trouble and crisis they create you are always in the middle of it working hard to fix people who are not even trying to fix anything for themselves, they create problems for themselves because they know you are going to be there to fix it.

Stop being a fixer, if they create  problems, how is it that their problems automatically become yours? That’s not healthy. The Bible says in Deuteronomy 13:19 “Life is choice driven”.

I have to love you enough to let you live by the consequences of your own choices.

If you choose to live your life on the lowest level I am going to love you enough to let you do that insofar as you are alright with it and I am going to love me enough to be fine with that. There are people in our lives that we want more for them than they want for themselves. “Life and death, blessing and curse choose”

Loving you does not require that I put myself on hold or does it require that I allow you to ruin the atmosphere around my life.

 

 

Draining Emotional Empathy.

Draining Emotional Empathy occurs when internalize emotional reaction of someone else’s situation begin to take a toll in your life, causing a problem and other issues which starts to manifest in form of sickness such depression, heart attack, stroke, or panic attack, some people bring other people’s heaviness, negative energy back home and it begins to affect the entire family because of this emotional empathic reaction to someone else’s experience.

This often happens when we are not mature enough to know how to process it or what to do with it and so it becomes unhealthy for us.

We must understand that energy spirit are transferrable and if we are immature and undeveloped to relate in ways that we will not be negatively impacted, we begin to suffer from other people’s stuff which are not supposed to be our business because people with deeply empathetic nature find themselves taking on other people’s issues and making them theirs.

However, there is a better way of empathizing and helping out, acting in this matter can give energy vampires who intentionally drains others a leeway to get their needs met through your supply of sad and negative emotions.

Emotional Empathy also cause people to long for people who abuse them. Sometimes we fail to realize that not all stories we hear are actually true, when people share their story with us depending on the nature of the story and instead of us to perceive the person as either a narcissist, psychopath or sociopath, we start to connect with their energy and the energy of their story, you begin to feel for the person to the point where you no longer feel what you should feel for you, at that moment you start to believe you can change them. The reality is that you are setting yourself up for abuse.

Some people have permanently taken the codependent role due to emotional Empathy, they deplete themselves by curing other people’s pain and become broken because they love and find a sense of fulfilment in meeting some other people’s needs and build the identity of being the saviour of the day, so you deprive yourself to solve another person’s crisis.

This is where most people get stuck in life finding their sense of purpose and value in meeting other people’s needs, they come back home their own needs are not met because no one is there to meet them but they are constantly giving to people who suppose to take care of their own needs, like what plays in families.

Well, the churches teaches that it is the Christian thing to do, but you end up having users who step into your life and narcissists who are there to take advantage of your Christlike empathy who have no corresponding rules, even the Bible says in 2nd Thessalonians 3:10 “He who does not work let him not eat.”

Codependency is a behaviour condition in a relationship where one person enables another person’s addiction, immaturity, irresponsibility or underachievement.

Among the core characteristics of codependency is the excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity, sometimes rescuing broken people can become your dysfunctional identity, you begin to create codependent relationships which always often start with Emotional Empathy.

The codependent needs to give everything to a toxic person to fill fulfilled and when they do that still wonder why they feel fulfilled and at the same time a sense of lack and the flip side of that coin is the narcissist who has taken everything from the person to fill fulfilled.

Many narcissists are seeking out toxic empaths who become overwhelmed with what they feel towards the narcissists, a toxic empath results from emotional empathy and becomes a codependent.

 

Unhealthy Love Patterns.

Often times people get stuck in unhealthy love patterns believing it to be true love not realizing that they are merely attached to the person and there’s really no true love between them.

 

What is unhealthy Love

Unhealthy Love consist of patterns of dysfunctional toxic behaviour which a person exhibit in a supposed love relationship.

It is essential to understand that people who are emotionally damaged can not offer love until they undergo a process of healing, to unlearn and relearn how to remove the emotional baggage they are carrying with them and also heal from the traumatic experience that broke them.

What makes love unhealthy

Love is unhealthy when one person wants to always control the life of the other in everything without boundaries.

There are those who are emotionally immature as a result of their upbringing. These people are people who were over indulged by their parents, and given a false sense of superiority in which they become unnecessarily overbearing, controlling, toxic and narcissistic. And others who were not listened to and given attention at their early formative years, their parents erode their confidence and self-worth through abuse and mistreatment, growing up not knowing what love feels like because they were not given love, therefore, they are unable to offer and receive love, they are unfulfilled and always finding people to love them because they feel a void of emptiness within them. They however, prey on people and never taking responsibility but wanting and forcing people to love and respect them by controlling and gaslighting them, their actions are intensely hurtful, some of these people are utterly bitter and angry and they project their anger and bitterness to the people in their lives to destroy their sense of value through emotional abuse and they violate people’ boundaries as they were not taught empathy and compassion, they are familiar with the toxic and narcissistic lifestyle they grow up in.

And the other people who were raised by parents who only find value in serving the needs of others, these people find fulfillment in helping others, they take on the codependent role where they feel validated when approved by  others and often being used in all their relationships because they always compromise and don’t know how to say no to things that are unhealthy to them due to their inability to set healthy boundaries.

Well, it can be said that one way or another, or to a certain degree, we all needs healing, we have to generally heal from the conditioned pattern of the society that creates pain, trauma and other emotional sicknesses people suffers.

However, in order to stop recycling our love relationships painful experiences, we must have to start recognizing unhealthy love patterns. If loving someone else is depleting or hurting you as an individual, you have to consciously begin to pay more attention to these unhealthy love patterns, be intentional and sensitive to this to prevent yourself from being hurt many times and from abuse generally.

What are signs of unhealthy love.

  • Emotional manipulation and Control
  •  Physical, psychological and emotional abuse.
  • Gaslighting.

When you love, you feel what they feel. When love has no boundary or rules it becomes toxic for you as well as for them. Love should never hurt. There is no fear in love as perfect love cast out fear but you become afraid to let go when you are attached to the person and there is no love. Partners are often competitive and flexes their ego in attachment relationship.

What are the signs of love

  • Mutual respect and honouring
  • Affection and vulnerability
  • Empathy and authenticity

 

When love is involved, there is vulnerability and authenticity, you are yourself, compassionate, empathetic and forgiving. Love survives the passage of time. People always have a place in their hearts for those that they love even when they are no longer together and always wish them well. Love is freedom, but the party who is not in love becomes controlling but remain acting under the pretence of love unleashing control. Love should not involve torment, but many are tormented because of love, many are under depression due to the love they have for their children, lovers and others because it is an unhealthy love, not developed, mature and based on God or principles because the driving force of love is empathy, if I say I love you, I feel whatever you are going through that is a natural way of love and now the onus is on me to know what to do with the feelings of love I have for you.

 

 

 

 

 

Dark night of the soul: Why we need it

What do we really needs to learn from this topic the dark night of the soul? I hope you will be enlightened by this… Happy reading

 

 Why the dark night of the soul.

Without the dark night of the soul, there is no fulfilment in life. The experience of a happy and fulfilled life start with the crushing of the ego which occurs during the period of the dark night of the soul. No one can fully and authentically enjoy life without first transcending the ego into a free spirit.

How do we feel before the dark night

Before the dark night of the soul takes place in the life of a person, something must be missing in the life of that person which is usually a lack of contentment, fulfilment, peace and happiness. Many people have acquired wealth for themselves, they are established in their career and successful in their businessess, yet they feel a gapping void of emptiness within them and they have found that all they have achieved can not satisfy them. This is because they have lost the flavour of life and have not yet gained the fullness of divinity, the reason they feel that way.

The ego is the identity we acquire in this space we are, (the world). We are infinite beings and divine by nature. When we leave this space, we continue to exist in other dimensions where our divine self takes over completely because at this point we have dropped our ego self with its accumulated baggage behind, then our higher self takes preeminence over us and begin to act in full capacity.

We are powerful and limitless from birth but we become limited as we take on the ego identity and begin to learn the patterns of the world. Here our divine powerful persona is suppressed by the weak limited inauthentic ego persona that we become and its behaviour because our divine personality can not fully lead or interfer with the ego activity due to the density of the ego.

What causes the dark night

What actually causes the dark night is  when there is intense accumulation of debris in one’s life, your divine self (the soul) then sign you up to go through the dark night. When this happens, it becomes necessary for a person to undergo a purging process to eliminate the baggage and transcend the wrong ways we have been living due to the activities of the ego. The period of the dark night of the soul and the purpose of this dark night is to crumble the ego persona through pain, because during this time,  you seemingly appear lost and in pain as you face many challenges and unpleasant situations at the same time and would wonder whether God even exist because of the suffering you are experiencing and the circumstance you found yourself. The essence of this period is for you to surrender to the experience, go through the pain and allow the process to cleanse you and bring you to a divine profound transformation to experience the next best version of yourself.

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The ego is the self that operates in the world, we learn the patterns of the ego from our parents, teachers, schools, family system and in all other associations we find ourselves. These patterns contains many different emotional baggage that includes painful experiences which we are subjected to and are meant to undergo as we continue to grow.

As we grow older or in adulthood, we become loaded and wey down with these heavy emotional baggage which however begin to manifest in form of depression, frustrations, anxiety, dysfunctional behaviour, trauma, worries, failed marriages, lack of finances, other emotional sicknesses, leaving us confused, perplexed and sad not knowing what to do. We become pained and burden with many questions, seeking answers and looking for solutions.

Sometimes, when we start to notice some of these sad events happening in our lives, our friends and relations tend to abandon us, others often start to spread stories calculated to make mockery of you, shame you to erode your confidence and self-esteem, to make you feel worthless and appear less in the public eye. You however begin to feel vulnerable and humiliated. This happens to all of us, but it appears in different ways and forms because we all have ego identity.

Just as we are made up of the divine self, we are also made up of the ego self, the ego self is the personality you are identified with in the world.

For anyone to make a shift in their lives which can usher them into a space to become fulfilled in life, they must go through a process of “self discovery or spiritual awakening.” Where the ego becomes transcended and they embrace more of their divine nature.

This often happens while still going through the pain and suffering of the dark night, you suddenly begin to have a profound realization that the life you are living is actually not the true life. You start to understand that there is more to life than what you have been made to understand.

You start to listen more to yourself than what plays in the world. You become more intuitive and your purpose become activated, you find yourself wanting to help others and to know more truth, you begin to receive a download of information in your awareness coming from your divine self and you begin to share your gift in service to humanity.

It is important to note that although everyone experience the pain that comes with the ego upbringing but not everyone gives up the ego life that operates in the system. Some even when their soul want them to start the process of awakening by entering the dark night, they tend to shut down the process, they tend to procure different means to stop it because they can’t be vulnerable and surrender or give up the ways of the ego, they remain attached to the system of the society and particularly if they deceitfully followed the way the game is played and find themselves at the top where they can exploit, they never find a reason to return to their authentic and divine selves until they exist the world.

 

 

 

 

What is relationship dynamics?

Just what is relationship dynamics? This post will show you all you need to know about relationship dynamics.

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What is relationship dynamics? A definitive guide

When we are young, we don’t understand relationship dynamics as fully as we should.

Sometimes it takes a number of relationships before we become awaken and realize that just because we care about someone in a way that it includes it whole person, we want to know what their needs and desires are, what has shaped who they are, we have empathy, respect and see them as individuals, we don’t want to engulf them or completely rely on this person in an unhealthy way, we want to ensure that we don’t lose ourselves as individuals and become totally submerged in this relationship.

When people are in healthy relationships, they are able to see themselves as an individual, they don’t want to emesh or infuse the person and in fact they enjoy the fact that they are communicating with a person who is an individual, who might think differently.

 

Healthy relationship

In a healthy relationship, you are challenged and think you can do better, this is from a place of genuine compassion, authenticity, it’s a place of empathy.

If you are highly codependent, you are relying on someone else to make you feel worthy because you have a false or poor sense of self. Our perception of self is negative, we are shame-based, we don’t feel good enough, we have learned that love and affirmation are conditional, you have to do something to gain approval, you suffered emotional neglect and have learned that people pleasing and acquiescing is safe, if you are acquiescing to the needs of someone who is narcissistic, you please them and avoid the negative consequence.

 

What is relationship dynamics: Root core of every relationship

Codependents subjugate their needs for a toxic person, they feel unsafe and oftentimes they settle for bad boys or exciting girls because they don’t feel that they can attract someone who is truly healthy. Someone’s perception of self is really at the root core of every relationship

The narcissist also has the false self, they have learned that they also have to dominate and control people in order to feel emotionally regulated, they idealize people to mirror same back to them as the false idealization.

They idealize others because they need this to deceive them that they love them, it is a reflection on them so idealizing you is actually a mirror for the false idealization that they have for themselves, they do this for narcissistic supply. 

They have this grandiose perception of self that needs to be supported. When a narcissist makes you a target, their target depends on the amount of supply they are going to get from you.

 

A Narcissist’s mind in a relationship

In the mind of the narcissist, there must be something very important about them if  a celebrity talks to them, so they love bomb, they represent in terms of value a really narcissistic supply.

If he deems that you have a tremendous narcissistic supply of value, then you will become more of a target to them. Narcissists simply target their victims of desire.

 

What is relationship dynamics: Charismatic narcissists.

There are successful women who found themselves in narcissistic relationships. If a narcissist wants you, it’s almost impossible to resist because they are very romantic, they will sweep you off your feet and into their world of fantasy, you will be like omg!

This is amazing, this person is special but you don’t know that this person is idealizing you, it’s all about them getting narcissistic supply. The more value you have in society, the more prestigious you are, the more you are a huge supply to a narcissistic that is why you are going to be targeted, you are a rich source of narcissistic supply. 

Narcissists see people as commodities, so you have to offer them something they will have to figure out among the women or men in their life, they must offer them the most intense narcissistic supply. This supply could be money, fame, public attention or paparazzi.

They  don’t generate their own sense of self from within which healthy people do, we find value in nature, in the work that we do but narcissists can’t do that. It’s very sad, that makes them also treacherous to be around with.

 

Making conscious choices

The essence of this writing is to bring this to your knowledge to enable you make healthiest and most conscious choices. These people have to love bomb and idealize you as a source of narcissistic supply because without the narcissistic supply they cannot sustain themselves, they can’t survive without operating this way.

The fear of offending someone who is so volatile has programmed us to feel stuck and trauma bond and has also programmed us to seek approval of this narcissists, that’s why it’s easy for codependent to be with people who are highly narcissistic, a girl’s codependent role is often programmed by her mother and of course the society to always acquiescence, subjugate and figure out what the needs of others are.

We are taught that who we are is insignificant and that has become a baseline for all our relationships but when you begin to question yourself this way:

“But why do I say yes when I mean to say no,’ Why is it difficult to set boundaries, why do people always use me?”

When you recognize this in yourself, you begin to understand why a particular personality trait makes it more or less likely that you stay in toxic relationships. 

There are people out there who don’t have issues such as codependency or suffocating from the internal fear of not knowing who they are, who will recognize someone’s love bombing as a red flag but there’s always some of us who grew up feeling invisible, who have never met a psychological mile stone of feeling seen, the need to know who you are and feel valued, we missed this milestone, mirroring a relationship. And as a child to have a sense of self, you need a healthy relationship mirrored back to you, to feel, and so we carry emotional wounds within us trying to figure out how to be good enough and end up attracting people in our experience who may see us as amazing source of narcissistic supply, someone who idolize them, look to please them, someone who is agreeable, afraid of conflicts and find it difficult to set boundaries and if you struggle with shame, a narcissist will pick up what your vulnerabilities are and will exploit with them.

 

Exploitative narcissist

Narcissists, whether grandiose or vulnerable, are highly exploitative, they view your vulnerability as a weakness and explore them. If you are not aware of relationships paradigm, you can spend years trying to figure out what is happening, and what you are battling with is cognitive dissonance, feeling that it’s your fault, you can’t keep this person happy and the narcissist under the narcissistic spell will convince you that it’s your fault because you are no longer the narcissistic supply they thought you were.

When they come back after maybe leaving, it means either, the source of supply they have is not as fulfilling and exciting as they wanted in order to feel good about themselves to avoid feeling a narcissistic injury because it has to be you.

They must re-idealized you, when you say: “But you said I wasn’t good enough, why are you calling me?” The narcissist may say; We were going through a bad time, I know you didn’t mean those things, you are a good girl, I did not hold anything against you, I am ready to forget everything, let’s forget the past and let bygone be bygone.

They do this because they want to maintain their grandiose idea of themselves. All the negative things they feed people with about you is the torture that is going on within them, is the internal torture of someone who has narcissism. It’s a cycle, a torture experience, they can’t experience love, compassion, empathy and authenticity like normal people, that’s why they hurt other people badly.

2 Timothy Chapter 3 talks about narcissism.

 

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The power of Manifestation.

What do we actually mean when we mention the topic manifestation? This article will broaden your mind and help you learn about manifestation principles to enable you begin to manifest your dreams

 

What is manifestation

Manifestation simply means achieving your goals as planned. You can rest when you know you have thought out how to handle every outcome that happens. When your desires are being manifested as you have intended, there is a special kind of relief that you will experience, the excitement that comes with that is unimaginable and overwhelming. This however, is everyone’s expectation because it gives us enormous fulfillment.

Those who trust in God will always see his manifestation in their lives. When you rely solely on God , he manifest himself mightily in your life. The Bible says those who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion who can never be shaken but abides forever, we do not have power on our own to abide, our ability and strength to remain trusting is the manifestation of his power upon us.

 

How can we manifest our desires

We manifest our desires by focusing on what we want. We see the manifestation of our desires quickly when we know who we are, identify our purpose and align our personality with God’s dream for us.

Manifestation of our intentions also become easy when we write our wants down and work towards achieving them.

 

What do we need to manifest our goals?

  • Believe without a shadow of doubt and fully trust the process.
  • Have expectations of positive outcome
  • Maintain a positive mindset

Don’t be too attached to the outcome by regularly checking whether what you have done is working or not after giving it up to the universe to bring it to pass by allowing it to manifest in your physical reality.

 

How can we know if we are manifesting our goals

We know we are manifesting our goals when we feel a sense of fulfilment and happiness, we are moving without the worries of life, we do not dwell in sadness and complaining. We walk gracefully and confidently. We are not bothered by whatever that is going on in our awareness because we trust the guidance we are receiving and the force that is in control leading our lives.

We are seeing positive results of the efforts we are putting in everything we are doing and this also gives us the motivation to do more as we continue to succeed.

 

What is the purpose of manifestation

Manifestation of our dreams bring us to an expected end, the essence is to live a fulfilled life and this start with knowing and accepting your calling, embrace it, do the work. When your higher self assign you to undergo the process that will awaken you to the truth as you enter your dark night which is the beginning of your transformation, surrender to the experience go through the pain that comes with it to enable you to fully accept and embrace your calling that brings about immense manifestation of the blessings of God upon your life.

Manifestation of your goal is to go through every scenario of the negative and positive possibilities that might happen. Balance is the key here since going to the extreme produces the opposite effect. Then consciously intend that those negative possibilities don’t happen while emotionally accepting them in case they do happen, then you allow yourself to feel your emotions, you are allowing the stream of life to pass through, you are able to experience the next thing without the need for the previous thing to reoccur.

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“Seek and you shall find” Those who seek shall manifest these blessings from The universe.

One thing about believers and manifestation is that they pray, believe and trust the process but when their hopes and intentions begin to manifest they don’t recognise it.

Just as the guidance you are receiving to take action in certain things so that you can start to manifest your desires could appear in any form, the same way the manifestation of your intention can also show up in ways that you sometimes don’t expect that is why if you are praying for something it’s important that you take your focus away from how it should manifest and don’t be attached to a particular thing because if the outcome is not what you have placed your focus on even if your desire has manifested in a related event you may not recognise and because you don’t recognise it you will not take action and you will allow the opportunity to slip away and pass you by.

The universe is all abundant, and is responding and attending to our wants but our poor focus often blindfolds us from seeing and receiving the blessings. The universe cannot be conditioned to appear and reward a person in a certain defined way, be open minded and broaden your mind to receive. Don’t restrict yourself or attached to only one thing or one way because it can also happens in ways that we do not expect, if we understand this we can always take advantage of the possibilities when they present themselves, and as we act on them we manifest positive results.

 

We struggle with limiting beliefs all the time and that is why we often want to control how everything should be. The fact that we want it a particular way does not necessarily mean it will happen the way we have envisioned, sometimes we want to bypass the normal process of unfolding or cut corners to achieve what we want, it’s essential to allow things to naturally unfold by trusting the process and relying on the universe to bring it to you, don’t get caught up in desperation this can cause you to miss out completely once you commit to something and play your part, give it up to the source of all creation and leave it there and continue to do other things, move your focus from it that way allows it to come back to you with a positive outcome but when you remained attached to the outcome, you begin to block it, you are creating resistance because you do not want to let go and resistance happens due to fear, and this fear result from double, where you start ruminating with thoughts of “what if” it did not happen as expected?

The key here is to believe without doubt, for whatever you are searching, be it happiness, wealth, freedom, love, health, whatever it might be that you are looking forward to manifest, trust and be positive about the outcome. Renew your mind from the limiting beliefs that are holding you back from experiencing and enjoying the life you want, well, we understand that the limiting beliefs are part of the human condition, being that we are raised with them and they form part of our ego or the limited-self identity, the self which is necessary in this space but we don’t have to allow them to restrict and limit our power from achieving our dream and prevent us from manifesting our true and highest potential. We are heires and heiresses of the the divine source and we have been commanded to seek and find, ask and receive therefore manifestation of all that is good is actually our birthright.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Kings are rich. Royalty is rich. There is just no question of lack or limitation when it comes to those who rule. You were born to be a prince or a princess. This privileged position signifies wealth and power. You cannot be royalty without wealth and power. It just doesn’t fit. You can only truly live as prince or princess if you realize your right to be rich and powerful. People have conflicting ideas of seeing themselves as prince or princess but yet not see themselves to be rich and powerful. They’re conflicted.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You must give up your idea of seeing yourself as a prince or princess if you have problems with wealth and power. People think they are seeing themselves as wealthy and powerful, but that is only a delusion.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In fact they are deceiving themselves. They fantasize about being rich and powerful, but at the same time, their minds are embedded with negative judgments about wealth and power. You can see by their actions of not going for wealth and power to know their true beliefs that form their reality.