3 Super Ways to Understand Narcissistic Abuse

Painful relationship stories continue to increase due to narcissistic relationship dynamics. Now is the time to end this paradigm through victims taking proactive actions.

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What is Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse consist of physical, emotional and psychological abuse and manipulation often unleashed by people with narcissistic personality disorder on their victims.

People with this personality disorder feel entitled to hurt others because they lack empathy and only care about themselves.

They also feel shame or low self worth, so they compensate by being grandiose and lashing out in the face of any criticism that may trigger negative feelings.

These days narcissists are just everywhere, they seem to have finally have the centre stage they have always craved, and it appears some people or probably narcissists are trying to get people to continue to enable their dysfunctional behaviour by changing the narrative by saying things like “What does our judgement of narcissism reveals about our humanity” by Michael Friedman PhD.

And my question: Does this in any way suggest that we should become enablers and allow narcissists to continue to operate in this manner, causing people pain, suffering and brokenness?

Narcissists make their victims vulnerable and cause them to walk on eggshells, they erode their confidence, demean them and make them to lose sense with reality.

They manipulate you with insult, threats, false accusation to make you afraid to get what they want.

They can’t take responsibility for their actions, with them everything is about subordination and competition, intensely aggressive, highly controlling and manipulative.

The ability to observe how others feel is the compassion that narcissists don’t have. They are emotionally unavailable  to understand how you feel, to them it’s like accountability. They are not self aware and anything that stands a person out is a threat to a narcissist and the next thing that follows is competition.

What are the signs of narcissistic abuse?

1. Control: Narcissists control their victims with debasing words, they refer to them with derogatory remarks and call them names, they are miserable and sad, they hate it when others are happy, they tend to control how you should feel in a relationship with them.

1. Violating boundaries: Narcissists don’t respect boundaries because they don’t take no for an answer, they always have their way irrespective of how others feel.

2. Gaslighting: Narcissists will tell you something which is normal to believe and trust when someone tell you something but they will turn around and make you feel like you are imagining things or crazy, claiming they never said that.

3. Compel you to go against your will to do their bidding.

4. Manipulation. They will cloud your sense of reasoning with confusion, and manipulate your perception of reality, twisting things to screw you up.

5. They idealize and devalue you and also triangulate you to get you jealous.

6. Narcissists physically assault or attack those close to them. They also attack them with verbal abuse.

7. Some narcissists kill their victims either during a fight or intense argument and there is always domestic violence in a relationship with a narcissist.

How to know if you are a victim of narcissist abuse

1. Sadness: You know that there is something wrong in your relationship with that man or woman, you feel sad, you can’t figure out the problem and you wish you could change it but you can’t.

2. Confusion.

3. Hopelessness

4. Loneliness

5. Isolation:

6. Depression

7. Panic and heart attacks.

8. World wary.

9. Death.

Narcissists are people who constantly need administration, approval and validation, it is extremely difficult for anyone in a relationship with a narcissist to cope because their gaslighting and manipulation will take a toll on you as you continue in the relationship. It is intensely detrimental to your mental health.

If you are a victim of narcissistic abuse, there are a few steps you can take to break free and commence your healing process.

1. Talk to a therapist.

2. Seek help

3. Make your exist plans quietly.

4. Engage in meditation to clear the confusion and gain clarity in order to see the reality for what it is.

5. Separate yourself emotionally from the narcissist. You can do this by focusing on the pain he has caused you so you don’t give in when he start to hover you back.






Activating the power within

You can learn the basics of activating the power within with this post. Of course, everyone has a form of power he or she can draw from within.

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Activating the power within: What does it mean

All humans possess great power within waiting to be activated. Lack of this awareness has caused people to feel powerless and remain like helpless victims, blaming themselves and the government for whatever they experience in their lives.

We all ruminate with stories of creation and how we are incarnated in this space, we remind ourselves all the time, the promises of a balanced and prosperous life contained in the religious books for those who believe to attain when they become evolved.

But how we can achieve this abundance remains a secret held tightly by the external authority figures who exert control over others and expose this secret to a selected few who are ever ready to succumb and pay allegiance to other filthy and demonic energy imprints they project the power to, to take control.


Unleashing divine powers

World leaders and religious authorities inclusive, prevented their devotees from accessing their true divine powers, they stopped people who were given the revelations on how to uncover this secret of the universe to activate their divine powers that unleashes all that is good, for fear of misuse of the same power for evil purposes.

However, the reason they dissuade people from knowing it and allow the external authority figures to pervert it for their selfish interest is not averted, because these people are actually using it to gain wealth and to destroy humanity.

The leaders are allowed full access to this information for control, manipulation and to acquire riches.

It is a calculated plan that has been in existence from time immemorial and many generations had passed without accessing this knowledge, all who received divine inspiration concerning this who were not part of or refused to be part of the control system and attempted to reveal the secret lived under threats, many were silenced and others were eliminated.


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How Einstein and Tesla did it

John Lock, Einstein and Tesla were able to do it without enmeshment into the filthy cult of control.

Any discussion that relate to this topic is usually a threat and unacceptable, in fact it’s perceived as offensive because it tend to intimidate the powers that be as a threat of any form of exposure is intensively dealt with because they prefer the illusion that it doesn’t exist, they want the world to remain under this illusion and brainwashing for ever, so that their contact with the aliens who have more advanced mental ability for exchange of resources continuous, that’s why the masses minds are easily influenced,

in this material world when they induced them through telepathy. The world is ruled by deception and cover up of the reality that exists within us.


Activating the power within: Don’t be deprived of your true existence

This control system is doing everything possible to deprive you of your true existence. That is why certain unhealthy things, behaviour, lifestyle including food must be encouraged to distract people from questioning authority and seeking answers where there’s lack of understanding.

They understand that the secret of this consciousness awareness lies in your third eye in the endocrine glands, which is just one of your energy light centers.

This is your spiritual antenna, it is the seat of the soul that when activated, you begin to have clarity of vision way beyond the physical eye, it is an incredibly powerful chakra which empowers you to see through the illusion that plays in this world.


Activating the ultimate truth and power

However, there’s a way in which people can begin to activate their divine ultimate truth and power. We come to this realization when we start to connect deeply with ourselves through certain practices, visualization and meditation create a portal that enables us to activate our energy light centers to enter our promised paradise.

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Meditation as a means of activating the power within

Meditation is a means of transforming the mind, it enhances concentration, clarity, emotional positivity and a calm, seeing the true nature of things. It allows people to observe and see their individual thoughts clearly without judgment in order to achieve a more relaxed and focused mind. With meditation you can reprogram your subconscious mind from the limiting beliefs that they programmed us with that are controlling how we think and keeping us away from exploring our abundance.

We are free spirits and limitless by nature. While visualization enables you to enter an altered state of mind, this is where we access ‘deep states’ of relaxation such as the alpha, beta and theta to slow the brainwaves frequency to enter the super conscious portal to find answers to all things. These are mental triggers which help you go deep to find a solution to whatever you desire.


Seven energy light centers

Everyone of us has seven energy light centers which are the glands that make up the endocrine system, these are spiritual points that when unclogged you begin to experience a new reality, you come to awareness and free yourself from the illusion that is playing here in this space, you start to see the reality for what it is and enter your promised paradise.

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How to love yourself


Do you want to learn how to love yourself? This is just the right article for you.


How to love yourself: What’s the relationship you have with yourself

The relationship you have with yourself is the most elegant and profound of all relationships. When you love, embrace and accept yourself fully, every aspects of your body start to respond positively towards you and your other relationships also improve.

Most people neglect themselves and focus only on others because they hate parts of themselves but admire and appreciate what they see in others and looking for people to love them, approve and validate them so they can feel valid and worthy enough to exist.

The fact is no one can authentically love you or others unless they are able to love themselves. You however, cannot truly love anyone else if you do not love yourself, the reason we dwell in bitterness, hate, anger and jealousy, we want to be like other people living in denial of our own beauty and brilliance because we have refused to look inward to behold the overwhelming exquisite beauty and greatness that lies within us if only we can reduce our outward focus and tune in to ourselves to explore our authentic natural and divine endowment.

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Loving yourself: Focus is necessary

Anything you give attention in this universe respond to you and begin to grow, whatever you focus on expands.

Dr Emoto, a Japanese and a scientist at California University conducted an experiment where he used frizzed water and crystals and projected different emotions both positive and negative such as love and hate, the vails of water that contained emotions of love turned out beautifully and symmetrical while the vails of water that hate and other negative emotions were projected into were nasty and ugly.

This goes to show that words can tear down and words can heal, the thoughts we hold in our awareness can either make or break us.


How to love yourself: Power in words

There’s power in words, Thoughts and beliefs. All the material things we see around us, the technology we enjoy today and everything else that exists within our awareness started with a thought.

Some people slept, thought about them, move into action and they all became reality. Thoughts of harmony, love, peace and gratitude gives life to anything.

Studies have shown that our consciousness and how we relate to our environment affect the things around us, this is how our thoughts and emotions impact us, if you ruminate with thoughts of hate, and project the hateful and sad emotions to the parts of yourself you do not appreciate, they will continue to reflect what you feel about them, but if you love every part of you and accept them the way they are and begin to see them in your mind’s eyes as beautiful and lovely, they start to radiate beauty.


The energy around us

The way we feel and resent rejection, everything we are made up of does the same. Everything around us is energy vibrating at different frequencies.

We are all a part of universal energy and also vibrate at different frequencies. Whatever we send out comes back to us, as we think so we are, we reap what we sow.

Therefore we attract who we are at a deeper level and life response to us as we think and feel about it.


Loving yourself: Avoid negative paradigm

If you are stuck in negative paradigms, you will continue to recycle same, whatever you give out comes back to you in the same proportion.

Self-love brings great transformation, it heals unprocessed childhood emotional experience and trauma. It feels good to love yourself, be gentle with yourself, you are the best person to do it, you are an expression of God, you are love energy love energy is like sexual energy because it is powerful, humanity emerged from it, there’s no existence without love.

Find love within yourself and bring that love energy to others and all that exist around you, for love heals all wounds and it is the best medicine for the ills of mind kind.
Stop depending on other people to love you before you can feel loved, you are loved because you emerged from love energy, all you need is to simply activate the love within you and bring it to others so that you will set a standard for others to do same.


Vibration of love

You are a vibration of love. If you can touch people with the divine love you can ignite within yourself, you become a magnet of love including the love you express and receive from the opposite sex.

You can create a happy life for yourself by focusing on love and gratitude.

Eliminate the things that don’t serve you and let go of people who don’t honour you by saying no to things that don’t lift you up, by standing in your vision and standing for your vision, by asking for what you want and praying for yourself because love attract love, you become a magnet of love by holding yourself accountable when you end a toxic relationship and get the lessons.

You love yourself by getting lessons for things that hurt you, by getting rid of family patterns that don’t serve you, by taking time to listen to yourself.

By making yourself a priority. If you do a good thing for others’s benefit, you are unleashing divine power of love, your love is divine, the only relationship that holds any value at all is your relationship with God, the creative source though you will come up with relationships that should have value in this space but the most important is to be in alignment with the creator, the God of your understanding, the divine love energy, only man is co-creator with God and this comes with responsibility.

You have the right and capacity to chose to ruminate with loving thoughts, feelings and actions, anything you are enslaved and obligated to, you made that choice, when you had another option which could be a choice of love. 

The only way we are going to experience freedom is to always chose love and not fear, become mindful, conscious about what you are thinking, what feelings you are allowing to breed in the garden of your heart and what you do in response to what you feel and think, prioritize your thoughts and anything you don’t feel attached to let it go.

Give up the story, it hurt, the shaming and distressing.

Freedom means authoring your life moment by moment to move you forward and stand in your inner authority to determine what you are going to chose moment by moment, if you continue to remind yourself about what someone said about you or what happened, what they did and what they didn’t, you are going to be enslaved to the past experiences and will never discover the allure that is in you, give up the story this way, look up, give up your humanness and step into your divinity, it doesn’t matter what you are seeking, write down what you want and how you want to see yourself, meditate and visualize the outcome you want, let go trust the process and watch.

Give up people’s opinion of you because when you start paying attention to people’s opinion of you it may leads you to judging yourself and judgement leads to enslavement, if you can free yourself from these, you have prepared yourself for freedom that comes with inherent rights and ability to make choices that will empower you to live a liberated life.

Commit to yourself, don’t feel guilty to give yourself the most elegant treat, don’t be ashamed to feel and give yourself what you deserve, forgive yourself for the times you disappointed yourself and acted in ways that made you to regret.

Take care of yourself and take responsibility and be accountable for your life, be willing to embrace uncertainty, it’s okay not to know if things appear strange, focus on what you have and be grateful, don’t get caught up in the lack consciousness and mentality, all beneficial change is preceded by chaos, maybe you need to loose the old self so you can create the new self.

Remember that every other relationship you have may end but the relationship you have with yourself remains forever.

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How to stop limiting beliefs

How to stop limiting beliefs is the focus of this article. I hope you will enjoy it.


What are limiting beliefs?

We have been downloaded with disempowering and limiting beliefs from our various cultures that accumulate into heavy baggage that burden all people existing in our society.

They teach us these negative patterns from an early age to be able to absorb them like a sponge and bear them as our identity to become our only reality and consciousness.

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How to stop limiting beliefs: Existence of other realities

We are conditioned in this way to keep us away from accessing the truth to remain contained, controlled and manipulated in certain subtle ways so as to not question and generally explore the existence of other realities which are not within our awareness.

Society instills negativity and discord into the lives of its individuals so that these negative patterns can be reinforced over and over again and pass them from one generation to another.

These patterns unleash pain, misery, suffering, chaos and all manner of traumatic situations to sustain and suppress their secret plot against the truth about humanity.


Stopping negative repeated patterns

These negative repeated patterns of lies and limitations are deeply ingrained in our subconscious so much so that it’s difficult to even believe the ideal and the truth as this has been our original way of life even though it is not the true intended state for us. It was sold to us to prevent people from understanding, acknowledging, claiming and exploring their real power as human beings.

These patterns have left people broken, miserable and frustrated as they grossly impact on our emotions producing dysfunctional minds, people, situations and circumstances which we have to encounter, embrace, struggle and deal with in our daily lives.

They impact our thought pattern in a distorted and destructive manner and orchestrates our resonance in ways that are damaging to us, causing people to screw up themselves really bad by the inner discussion they have within, ruminating from those patterns cause people to use their energy to harm themselves instead of using it to build themselves up by the negative self-talk that goes on in our heads and in our minds, instead of keeping it positive.

Using the energy of your thoughts

Often, we use the energy of our thoughts in an attempt to avoid bad outcomes instead of using it to create what we desire, we obviously create terrifying situations and issues capable of destroying or harming us.

We pull ourselves down by the discouraging self-talk in our heads, this is easy because the negative beliefs are already stored in our subconscious mind, we are set on auto pilot mode by this programming and naturally ruminate and release the negative patterns on our own.

The anguish, pain and sadness this has caused humanity is incredibly overwhelming from the generations past to the present day, how these patterns make people feel has never been addressed and discussed in any way as this has long been generally embraced as the only way of living.

But with the increase in suicide cases, different types of addictions, victimisation and mental health issues have made it necessary to start to question, and challenging the probable cause of these patterns. Psychologists have attempted to come up with something to add to the narrative which relates to traumatic childhood experiences which have to do with emotional abuse. Because we have been raised to be negative, we are hardly aware of how to relate in a kind, gentle and loving manner to connect deeply on an emotional level with other people.


Toxic way of thinking

We are familiar with the irrational and toxic way of relating which is our original unfair upbringing that has its roots in negativity, we unleash that naturally. Releasing the kind, compassionate, loving and empathetic way which is a strong part of our natural identity is difficult and unfamiliar.

Parents who are raised this way by their own parents have consistently found it hard to collect new thoughts, replaced or renew their minds and change their thoughts and behaviour to connect emotionally with their children by giving them a purpose for living and giving their existence meaning and value by suitable words attuned to their emotions they should say to validate and soothe them generally.

Rather, they tear their fragile emotions with toxic and hostile behaviour. Some parents refer to their children with derogatory names such as useless, fools, animals, idiots. When a child has done something wrong perhaps, instead of correcting the child in a healthy manner by either showing them or teaching them the right way to go, the parent unprocessed baggage, childhood wounds, trauma and brokenness is often triggered and they dump their childhood emotional baggage and frustration on the child because the child had triggered the pain, the anger of their own unprocessed emotional baggage.

However, the reaction of such a parent, reinforced the same pattern in the child, children are born formless and without knowledge of anything, it is the circumstances of their birth, the environment and the society that gives them form and shape.

Whatever you teach a child is what they absorb and reproduce, the wrong way the human society is being impacted with lies, limiting beliefs and dysfunction is currently taking a toll on the society itself and it’s not surprising that we are witnessing the collapse.

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