CODEPENDENCY IS NOT NICENESS

 

 

What is codependency

Codependency is a survival strategy. It is a way of seeking validation by being nice to others, it is a skill individuals who did not received emotional care, approval and love during childhood develop to care for others in order to receive praise to feel validated and needed. This however provide them with a relief and tend to soothe them emotionally.

Causes of codependency

Seeking to care for others is a way to secure attachment, even if it is unhealthy attachment. The codependent lack compassion, empathy and love as children, in adulthood they start to engage in certain behaviour to enable them cope. Codependents feel it’s their responsibility to make others happy and to fix their lives. You may not recognise how emershed you have become and how lost you are to the needs of others.

Codependency can result from emotional, physical and sexual abuse. You either grew up in an alcoholic home for example, children of alcoholics- your parents or one of your parents is a narcissist.

You were often punished for expressing an emotion.

You may have grew up in a home where other of your relatives were indifferent to you.

You come from a turbulent, unstable home where parents were always involved in raging and shouting matches.

You were raised in placement and unstable homes like foster care. Or

You had codependent parents who were playing out this codependent and narcissistic pattern and enabling dynamic.

You have abandonment trauma, you were probably abandoned or exposed to unhealthy practices or you were sexually exploited by your care giver, maybe one of your parents left when you were very young, either your mother separated from your father or your father divorced your mother, whatever the case maybe, you feel a sense of abandonment, you may have been abandoned by someone you love.

You grew up from an unsafe unpredictable home with your parents yelling at you at the slightest provocation, or that there was no money to meet your basic needs or that you were ignored and had no one to nurture you and show concern about your emotional needs.

 

Codependency traits

Codependency is a way of finding a  sense of worth. We often don’t feel good about ourselves, we look to others to make us feel good, our happiness is actually tied to something in the third world, our sense of self is tied to something outside of us.

1. Always apologizing even when you are not wrong is a sign of codependent behaviour.

2. Saying yes to the needs of others when it’s not convenient for you.

3. Begging to be accepted or approved of.

When a codependent jump to accept the role to take care of other people, they are  taking the right of others to learn to take care of themselves. On a healing path, when you start saying no, you are going to loose validation, people stop seeing you as a nice person though it’s difficult but hang in there because it does get better. Awareness is key, it helps in healing. Raise your level of consciousness and merge the polarities of light and dark within us to stop creating karmic patterns of the pass, karma is pattern of cost and effect.

How to stop being codependent

1. Self love is key. Identify what you love most about yourself.

2. Acknowledge the codependent pattern within you.

3. Get clear about your childhood, you must acknowledge how your unconscious parents raised you and how that caused the why you show up in the world. How was it like growing up? Were you validated or ignored? Did you witness domestic violence by your parents growing up? Were you sexually abused? Were your parents narcissistic or codependents? Did your parents struggle with drugs and alcohol? What did you witnessed in your childhood?

4. Allow people to suffer the consequences of their actions, don’t jump into helping when it’s not necessary and stop being the heroes of other people’s lives because we don’t feel good in our own skin.

Feeling good in solving other people’s problems is not a healthy way to live.

5. Make a list of the people you are enabling and the times you wanted to say no and you said yes, reframe the conversation and stop playing back unhealthy dynamics. Codependency is an addiction. Raise your conscious awareness around your co-dependence behavior.

6. Develope strategies that can help you shut that out, stop trying to become what other people want you to be. Your care giver at your early childhood were highly critical and abusive. You weren’t able to have your own reality and losing yourself in the process, two polarities now we’re trying to reconcile and integrate them.

Childhood emotional problems are issues that if not properly managed affect how we show up in the world in  adulthood. It is therefore important for parents to nurture their children and pay close attention to their childhood emotional needs to enable them develop a sense of self and worth to impact on their self confidence and purpose for living.

 

 

Universal Life Force is Secret to wealth: Connect Now

 

What is universal Life Force

Universal life energy is cosmic energy, it is a strong energetic force, it’s released from the universe itself, this force can be harnessed into our being so we can utilize it for our own good.

How can we connect to it

This energy is always flowing in us, but we may not be able to utilize it for our ultimate good if we are too attached to form and always in resistance of what is. To connect, we must learn to let go of the desire to force things to be the way we want. We must practice acceptance and learn to surrender, allowing things to unfold and manifest naturally.

It is also necessary to practice mindfulness and let go of limiting beliefs. It is important to meditate and let go of the believe in separation, for all are united by a common humanity and all emanate from the same source power that created all things in existence. It is essential to harness your energy light centers and always be in nature to enable you recharge yourself.

How do we become successful by connecting to it.

We do not need concentration or strong mental efforts to contact the life vibrations. All we need to do is to become conscious of their continual flow in us to establish the contact. The easiest and simplest way of contacting universal life energy is through mental contact. Simply think the words “I am one with universal life energy. It is flowing through me now. I feel it” and feel it. Relax physically, mentally and emotionally and feel harmony within you. When you’re in that state, the power is flowing through you.

To relax at will takes practice. Feel the feeling physically as comfortable and as much at ease as you can. Relax your mind as much as possible. Try not to think of anything but just to sense rest, peace, and when the condition is attained, then enter mentally into silence, try to silence your mind, let there be silence within your own self for a while, all impulses, desires and even thought. The relaxation and silence will rest your body and mind to open them to the flow of life energy. Practice will enable you to enter the silence instantaneously.

The conscious contact with universal life energy, once established, remains for a considerable amount of time. Therefore your energy-power will last for a while as you go about doing things and experiencing good success with them. You don’t always have to consciously charge yourself all the time because that will cause an imbalance. You want your energy circuit to run by itself and only recharge at appropriate times. Re-establishing the mental contact three or four times a day would be the optimal way.

Connecting with life force energy can help us explore the energy of the universe to expand, to become successful when we harness it.

 

 

 

 

 

Power of Being a Creator of Reality

 

Who are creators of reality

We are all creators by default. All individuals are by nature creators of their reality, but this is creating out of awareness and because of this lack of awareness, we often create and bring into existence dysfunctions. Reality actually has to do more with the way we think and perceive things. All things are neutral until we act on them including our thoughts and feelings. If we are conscious of the fact that we are creating our reality moment by moment, our life situations and circumstances are a product of our thoughts, beliefs, actions and the vibrations we ruminates with, we will begin to create with intention, and therefore become intentional and mindful of the thoughts we allow to take preeminence over our lives and our actions and we will not allow negative or unproductive beliefs to rule our existence.

What can you do to become a creator of reality

First of all, when you are aware that you are a co creator of your reality both physically and vibrationally, anything that is meant to be for the good of humanity, you are the one who initiates and creates it into existence, instead of waiting for things to happen, you go ahead and begin them. When others who are bringing to reality what is more or less things that are not useful to them due to lack of awareness look to someone to follow, you lead the way. You start the ball rolling instead of waiting for someone else to make it roll. You take control of situations and direct them the way you desire them to go. You become the cause of events and experiences. You have the power to move the world at will because you make decisions and follow them.

It is in the moments of decision your destiny is shaped. Where there is no decision, there is no shaping of destiny. The experience of our life’s purpose involves making decisions to do what we desire to do. The divine will is expressed through us when we choose to co-create with it. We cannot avoid our role as chooser-creators in every moment of life. To decide is to cut off, deciding is to select one possibility to manifest while cutting off all others and shaping reality to that particular form.

We are always deciding whether we’re aware of it or not. When we do not decide to change things, we are deciding that they remain the same. Therefore, being a creator is not about whether you are deciding or not, but whether you are making conscious decisions. It’s about being aware when you have a decision to make, and then choosing intentionally which one to go for. Things do not change until we do. Creators do not wait for change to happen, they are the cause of the changes they like to see.

How to become a powerful creator of reality

Life is responding to us as we perceive it. There is no limitation until you perceive there is. In truth, there really are no limitations. Perceptions creates reality and whenever you perceive something to be, you create it to be. Hence when something appears to be a limitation but you do not perceive it as one, it will not become something that limits you. Having a mindset of no limitation is very powerful because it causes you to become unstoppable. When you perceive yourself to have no limitations, you will become totally irresistible to others.

 

Creating with freedom to free others

The reason why people resist is because they perceive that there is something we are lacking. They only want to accept or let in that which will complete them and not something that doesn’t fit because it is incomplete. Our perceptions create their perceptions. When we perceive limitation about ourselves, we will project it to others to perceive. We are the creator of all the resistance that we experience. When we perceive no limitation about ourselves, we project it to others and they have nothing to resist.

People want to be free and they are drawn to others who can make them feel free. You can’t free others unless you are free yourself. Being in the presence of someone who perceives no limitations is so liberating, because it makes you feel that you can be, do and have anything you desire. People who have no limitation have great influence over others because they are able to make people do anything they want. Sometimes, it feels like we are under their control as they are able to have their way with us and make us drop all our inhibitions.

We all are creators of reality and are creating everyday. It is important that we become mindful of our thoughts and actions so we can create things that are impactful to others and ourselves. We can become powerful creators of our realities when we are able to change the way we perceive and relate with all the things around us.

 

 

 

 

Emotional Instability

 

What is emotional instability?

Emotional Instability is a process in which your emotions extremely vacillate or fluctuate and you are having mood swings, this moment you are in different or angry and the next minute you are happy or sad.

Being emotionally unstable can be a sign of personality disorder, childhood trauma, depression or anxiety disorder.

Signs of emotional instability

1. Intense anger mood swings

This vary between dysphoria and euphoria and from manic self confidence to severe anxiety and irritability. It is important to recognise the signs and support them when necessary, it is also essential that while we render assistant, we don’t allow their behaviour to affect us and others.

2. Impulsive actions

They may do things that could harm themselves and others without thinking through or even realising. For example, they may drive extremely fast, or under the influence of drugs/ alcohol, their impulsive actions are much more likely to be geared towards danger, also prone to impulsive spending, they could suddenly decide to go on reckless spending and gambling, they have no self control and often not aware and don’t understand delayed gratification. These actions however makes them feel good for a moment because they are unstable.

3. Anger issues.

Difficulty controlling how they express anger, they may snap back and forth between being angry and being extremely happy, they are not able to control their emotions in a healthy way and sometimes a sudden outbursts of laughter or sadness and their anger is most often damaging, when they are angry, they become a danger to the people around them, they result to violent behaviour causing harm to themselves and others. The reactions also depends on individual, while some result to physical violence and destructive behaviour that cause other people harm, others may create uneasiness by maybe slamming the door, yelling and shouting or push objects.

4. Have relationship issues

People with emotional instability have problems maintaining relationships, they may feel affectionate towards a person and at the same time feel a sense of resentment towards them. They are in and out of relationships. There is always domestic violence and shouting matches, their relationship often involves intense argument and rage, split and coming back together again and the circle continues.

4. Extreme reactions

They react extremely to real and perceived situations.

How to effectively heal from emotional instability

The most effective way to tackle emotional instability may be through conscious, psychological and neurological realms. The brain stores memories about events and sensations and we also have the ego to contend with which is the mind’s way of regulating our physical activities. Ego make us feel everything is right here right now, but the brain think in terms of time and space, so much of what we think in reality is bullshit. Teaching people with this issue different breathing techniques can help to gradually alleviate their suffering.

Sometimes we get fired up because we have not been taught the information that is true nor have we been taught information in a way our brains can understand it as this may attempt to make people wake up to the fact that so much that they think is real is not real at all, it is bullshit. We are 95% unconscious but our brains doesn’t think it’s a conflict. You are a psychological being and if you try to  heal only from a psychological angle, you are going to experience a conflict because you are not going to understand that healing is also technical, meaning neurological, meaning that it’s going to take some time to create new memories and have those memories shut from the hippocampus, short term memory, to the long term memory which is the pre-cortex and the frontal lobes. It’s going to take time, we don’t know these stuff, we are taught in terms of our faith, we are taught that our power is outside of us, no it is not, our power is within us. The same infinite intelligence is inside you. It is important that those of us who are in pain, heal because we are in illusory world, the world of the material and until we learn the skills that we need before we can be able to resolve all the problems staring on our faces, to go inside is what we need to do, if you have so much ache, low self esteem, shame and other stuff which is not your stuff, religious grooming of acquiescing and enabling dysfunctional behaviour, where you can’t say no to what is not right for you, make you feel you are not good enough, people think if two people are sick of maybe cancer, one survives the other dies, it’s God that allows that, no. God is not choosing and dropping, we need to understand what is happening in the illusory world. If you are someone who has at some point thought maybe the power is within me you are a fortunate human being because majority can’t imagine life outside this illusion.

The ego triggers and override the brain (hippocampus), the ego reaction triggers us, we can’t think because cortisone adrenaline is flooding our brain stem and our body is having different responses and taking over the idea that you are responsible for what is happening in your body, this is not true, you can become conscious of what is happening and learn to navigate it and manipulate it and have more control deliberately by observing it from a high state of awareness, you can also calm your brain by learning how to meditate to make it become less sensitive to triggers. Too much identification with the ego is the major causes of emotional instability. The ego mind create fear, anxiety and worry, it is concerned with people’s judgement of you and that can trigger a reaction, cause people to  shame others and make them feel a sense of low self worth, become anxious in certain situations and lose confidence.

Spending time frequently with non judgemental and empathic people can also help.

Giving them opportunities to express themselves and show how they feel.

Listening to them and showing them love and compassion.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why it’s important to raise your spiritual vibration and frequency..

Subtle energy system can affect your spiritual vibration and frequency and help create a shift in consciousness and bring about transformation.

Related: Breaking unhealthy soul ties

 

What is spiritual vibration

Spiritual vibration is a scale or a level in which a person’s feelings and emotions soares. The vibration rises high and also plummet. The feelings a person ruminates with at a particular time determines whether his vibration frequency will rise or drops.

Positive emotions rises the vibration positively and negative emotions decline the vibration. Whenever you are ruminating with negative thoughts and feelings as jealous, anger, hatred, anxiety, your vibration drops to a low frequency, these emotions are low vibration emotions. On the other hand, whenever you are thinking and feeling emotions of love, gratitude, confidence, your vibrational frequency tend to rise.

If you are feeling down, you are vibrating at a low frequency where you become prone to attracting negative situations, bad luck or misfortunes.

Related: Cognitive and emotional empathy  

How can we raise our vibration

Participating in activity you naturally love and are passionate about such as listening or singing the music you love can positively increase your vibrational frequency. Indulging in things that lift your spirit and make you happy, engaging in meditation, visualization, spending time with people you love, holding positive thoughts and reminiscing exciting past events, scenarios and circumstances can spontaneously raise your vibration to a high frequency.

However, regular communication with certain people whose energy is draining and toxic or who often dwell on negativity can pull down your own vibration to a very low level.

Some environment and objects also hold low vibration energy, when you come in contact with such, your energy vibration will drop. Same is true of places and objects with positive vibrational ambience and energy, they however, affect people positively.

Raising your vibration can also includes eating healthy food, engaging in self-care, self-love and wearing clothes and dressing up in a way that is pleasing to you to boost your self-confidence.

What does frequency mean

Frequency describes the number of waves cycles per unit of time. It’s a measure of the quality of a wave-like vibration. You can observe the different qualities of different frequencies in sound waves. A low frequency note has a certain feel to it, while a high frequency note has another feeling altogether. We refer to different frequencies of different people or environments when we say that a person or a place has “good vibes” or “bad vibes.” If you change your energetic level frequently everything else changes.

If you want to make significant shift in your life, it’s most effective when you frequently raise your vibration to a high level with positive emotions, when you shift yourself at the energetic level, you shift your conscious and subconscious thought processes.

When you constantly do things that keep your vibration at a high frequency you continuously attract luck and other good things to yourself, high vibration and high frequency when combine with gratitude birth an amazing life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 Super Ways to Understand Narcissistic Abuse

Painful relationship stories continue to increase due to narcissistic relationship dynamics. Now is the time to end this paradigm through victims taking proactive actions.

Related: What is relationship dynamics? 

 

What is Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse consist of physical, emotional and psychological abuse and manipulation often unleashed by people with narcissistic personality disorder on their victims.

People with this personality disorder feel entitled to hurt others because they lack empathy and only care about themselves.

They also feel shame or low self worth, so they compensate by being grandiose and lashing out in the face of any criticism that may trigger negative feelings.

These days narcissists are just everywhere, they seem to have finally have the centre stage they have always craved, and it appears some people or probably narcissists are trying to get people to continue to enable their dysfunctional behaviour by changing the narrative by saying things like “What does our judgement of narcissism reveals about our humanity” by Michael Friedman PhD.

And my question: Does this in any way suggest that we should become enablers and allow narcissists to continue to operate in this manner, causing people pain, suffering and brokenness?

Narcissists make their victims vulnerable and cause them to walk on eggshells, they erode their confidence, demean them and make them to lose sense with reality.

They manipulate you with insult, threats, false accusation to make you afraid to get what they want.

They can’t take responsibility for their actions, with them everything is about subordination and competition, intensely aggressive, highly controlling and manipulative.

The ability to observe how others feel is the compassion that narcissists don’t have. They are emotionally unavailable  to understand how you feel, to them it’s like accountability. They are not self aware and anything that stands a person out is a threat to a narcissist and the next thing that follows is competition.

What are the signs of narcissistic abuse?

1. Control: Narcissists control their victims with debasing words, they refer to them with derogatory remarks and call them names, they are miserable and sad, they hate it when others are happy, they tend to control how you should feel in a relationship with them.

1. Violating boundaries: Narcissists don’t respect boundaries because they don’t take no for an answer, they always have their way irrespective of how others feel.

2. Gaslighting: Narcissists will tell you something which is normal to believe and trust when someone tell you something but they will turn around and make you feel like you are imagining things or crazy, claiming they never said that.

3. Compel you to go against your will to do their bidding.

4. Manipulation. They will cloud your sense of reasoning with confusion, and manipulate your perception of reality, twisting things to screw you up.

5. They idealize and devalue you and also triangulate you to get you jealous.

6. Narcissists physically assault or attack those close to them. They also attack them with verbal abuse.

7. Some narcissists kill their victims either during a fight or intense argument and there is always domestic violence in a relationship with a narcissist.

How to know if you are a victim of narcissist abuse

1. Sadness: You know that there is something wrong in your relationship with that man or woman, you feel sad, you can’t figure out the problem and you wish you could change it but you can’t.

2. Confusion.

3. Hopelessness

4. Loneliness

5. Isolation:

6. Depression

7. Panic and heart attacks.

8. World wary.

9. Death.

Narcissists are people who constantly need administration, approval and validation, it is extremely difficult for anyone in a relationship with a narcissist to cope because their gaslighting and manipulation will take a toll on you as you continue in the relationship. It is intensely detrimental to your mental health.

If you are a victim of narcissistic abuse, there are a few steps you can take to break free and commence your healing process.

1. Talk to a therapist.

2. Seek help

3. Make your exist plans quietly.

4. Engage in meditation to clear the confusion and gain clarity in order to see the reality for what it is.

5. Separate yourself emotionally from the narcissist. You can do this by focusing on the pain he has caused you so you don’t give in when he start to hover you back.

 

 

 

 

 

Activating the power within

You can learn the basics of activating the power within with this post. Of course, everyone has a form of power he or she can draw from within.

Related: How to love yourself

 

Activating the power within: What does it mean

All humans possess great power within waiting to be activated. Lack of this awareness has caused people to feel powerless and remain like helpless victims, blaming themselves and the government for whatever they experience in their lives.

We all ruminate with stories of creation and how we are incarnated in this space, we remind ourselves all the time, the promises of a balanced and prosperous life contained in the religious books for those who believe to attain when they become evolved.

But how we can achieve this abundance remains a secret held tightly by the external authority figures who exert control over others and expose this secret to a selected few who are ever ready to succumb and pay allegiance to other filthy and demonic energy imprints they project the power to, to take control.

 

Unleashing divine powers

World leaders and religious authorities inclusive, prevented their devotees from accessing their true divine powers, they stopped people who were given the revelations on how to uncover this secret of the universe to activate their divine powers that unleashes all that is good, for fear of misuse of the same power for evil purposes.

However, the reason they dissuade people from knowing it and allow the external authority figures to pervert it for their selfish interest is not averted, because these people are actually using it to gain wealth and to destroy humanity.

The leaders are allowed full access to this information for control, manipulation and to acquire riches.

It is a calculated plan that has been in existence from time immemorial and many generations had passed without accessing this knowledge, all who received divine inspiration concerning this who were not part of or refused to be part of the control system and attempted to reveal the secret lived under threats, many were silenced and others were eliminated.

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Have you read the Soul Advocate eBook? It’s a soul-healing manual. Read more in Amazon 

 

How Einstein and Tesla did it

John Lock, Einstein and Tesla were able to do it without enmeshment into the filthy cult of control.

Any discussion that relate to this topic is usually a threat and unacceptable, in fact it’s perceived as offensive because it tend to intimidate the powers that be as a threat of any form of exposure is intensively dealt with because they prefer the illusion that it doesn’t exist, they want the world to remain under this illusion and brainwashing for ever, so that their contact with the aliens who have more advanced mental ability for exchange of resources continuous, that’s why the masses minds are easily influenced,

in this material world when they induced them through telepathy. The world is ruled by deception and cover up of the reality that exists within us.

 

Activating the power within: Don’t be deprived of your true existence

This control system is doing everything possible to deprive you of your true existence. That is why certain unhealthy things, behaviour, lifestyle including food must be encouraged to distract people from questioning authority and seeking answers where there’s lack of understanding.

They understand that the secret of this consciousness awareness lies in your third eye in the endocrine glands, which is just one of your energy light centers.

This is your spiritual antenna, it is the seat of the soul that when activated, you begin to have clarity of vision way beyond the physical eye, it is an incredibly powerful chakra which empowers you to see through the illusion that plays in this world.

 

Activating the ultimate truth and power

However, there’s a way in which people can begin to activate their divine ultimate truth and power. We come to this realization when we start to connect deeply with ourselves through certain practices, visualization and meditation create a portal that enables us to activate our energy light centers to enter our promised paradise.

Related: Gain access to our exclusive ebook guides that can help you to constantly activate the power within 

 

Meditation as a means of activating the power within

Meditation is a means of transforming the mind, it enhances concentration, clarity, emotional positivity and a calm, seeing the true nature of things. It allows people to observe and see their individual thoughts clearly without judgment in order to achieve a more relaxed and focused mind. With meditation you can reprogram your subconscious mind from the limiting beliefs that they programmed us with that are controlling how we think and keeping us away from exploring our abundance.

We are free spirits and limitless by nature. While visualization enables you to enter an altered state of mind, this is where we access ‘deep states’ of relaxation such as the alpha, beta and theta to slow the brainwaves frequency to enter the super conscious portal to find answers to all things. These are mental triggers which help you go deep to find a solution to whatever you desire.

 

Seven energy light centers

Everyone of us has seven energy light centers which are the glands that make up the endocrine system, these are spiritual points that when unclogged you begin to experience a new reality, you come to awareness and free yourself from the illusion that is playing here in this space, you start to see the reality for what it is and enter your promised paradise.

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How to love yourself

 

Do you want to learn how to love yourself? This is just the right article for you.

 

How to love yourself: What’s the relationship you have with yourself

The relationship you have with yourself is the most elegant and profound of all relationships. When you love, embrace and accept yourself fully, every aspects of your body start to respond positively towards you and your other relationships also improve.

Most people neglect themselves and focus only on others because they hate parts of themselves but admire and appreciate what they see in others and looking for people to love them, approve and validate them so they can feel valid and worthy enough to exist.

The fact is no one can authentically love you or others unless they are able to love themselves. You however, cannot truly love anyone else if you do not love yourself, the reason we dwell in bitterness, hate, anger and jealousy, we want to be like other people living in denial of our own beauty and brilliance because we have refused to look inward to behold the overwhelming exquisite beauty and greatness that lies within us if only we can reduce our outward focus and tune in to ourselves to explore our authentic natural and divine endowment.

Related: How to stop limiting beliefs

 

Loving yourself: Focus is necessary

Anything you give attention in this universe respond to you and begin to grow, whatever you focus on expands.

Dr Emoto, a Japanese and a scientist at California University conducted an experiment where he used frizzed water and crystals and projected different emotions both positive and negative such as love and hate, the vails of water that contained emotions of love turned out beautifully and symmetrical while the vails of water that hate and other negative emotions were projected into were nasty and ugly.

This goes to show that words can tear down and words can heal, the thoughts we hold in our awareness can either make or break us.

 

How to love yourself: Power in words

There’s power in words, Thoughts and beliefs. All the material things we see around us, the technology we enjoy today and everything else that exists within our awareness started with a thought.

Some people slept, thought about them, move into action and they all became reality. Thoughts of harmony, love, peace and gratitude gives life to anything.

Studies have shown that our consciousness and how we relate to our environment affect the things around us, this is how our thoughts and emotions impact us, if you ruminate with thoughts of hate, and project the hateful and sad emotions to the parts of yourself you do not appreciate, they will continue to reflect what you feel about them, but if you love every part of you and accept them the way they are and begin to see them in your mind’s eyes as beautiful and lovely, they start to radiate beauty.

 

The energy around us

The way we feel and resent rejection, everything we are made up of does the same. Everything around us is energy vibrating at different frequencies.

We are all a part of universal energy and also vibrate at different frequencies. Whatever we send out comes back to us, as we think so we are, we reap what we sow.

Therefore we attract who we are at a deeper level and life response to us as we think and feel about it.

 

Loving yourself: Avoid negative paradigm

If you are stuck in negative paradigms, you will continue to recycle same, whatever you give out comes back to you in the same proportion.

Self-love brings great transformation, it heals unprocessed childhood emotional experience and trauma. It feels good to love yourself, be gentle with yourself, you are the best person to do it, you are an expression of God, you are love energy love energy is like sexual energy because it is powerful, humanity emerged from it, there’s no existence without love.

Find love within yourself and bring that love energy to others and all that exist around you, for love heals all wounds and it is the best medicine for the ills of mind kind.
Stop depending on other people to love you before you can feel loved, you are loved because you emerged from love energy, all you need is to simply activate the love within you and bring it to others so that you will set a standard for others to do same.

 

Vibration of love

You are a vibration of love. If you can touch people with the divine love you can ignite within yourself, you become a magnet of love including the love you express and receive from the opposite sex.

You can create a happy life for yourself by focusing on love and gratitude.

Eliminate the things that don’t serve you and let go of people who don’t honour you by saying no to things that don’t lift you up, by standing in your vision and standing for your vision, by asking for what you want and praying for yourself because love attract love, you become a magnet of love by holding yourself accountable when you end a toxic relationship and get the lessons.

You love yourself by getting lessons for things that hurt you, by getting rid of family patterns that don’t serve you, by taking time to listen to yourself.

By making yourself a priority. If you do a good thing for others’s benefit, you are unleashing divine power of love, your love is divine, the only relationship that holds any value at all is your relationship with God, the creative source though you will come up with relationships that should have value in this space but the most important is to be in alignment with the creator, the God of your understanding, the divine love energy, only man is co-creator with God and this comes with responsibility.

You have the right and capacity to chose to ruminate with loving thoughts, feelings and actions, anything you are enslaved and obligated to, you made that choice, when you had another option which could be a choice of love. 

The only way we are going to experience freedom is to always chose love and not fear, become mindful, conscious about what you are thinking, what feelings you are allowing to breed in the garden of your heart and what you do in response to what you feel and think, prioritize your thoughts and anything you don’t feel attached to let it go.

Give up the story, it hurt, the shaming and distressing.

Freedom means authoring your life moment by moment to move you forward and stand in your inner authority to determine what you are going to chose moment by moment, if you continue to remind yourself about what someone said about you or what happened, what they did and what they didn’t, you are going to be enslaved to the past experiences and will never discover the allure that is in you, give up the story this way, look up, give up your humanness and step into your divinity, it doesn’t matter what you are seeking, write down what you want and how you want to see yourself, meditate and visualize the outcome you want, let go trust the process and watch.

Give up people’s opinion of you because when you start paying attention to people’s opinion of you it may leads you to judging yourself and judgement leads to enslavement, if you can free yourself from these, you have prepared yourself for freedom that comes with inherent rights and ability to make choices that will empower you to live a liberated life.

Commit to yourself, don’t feel guilty to give yourself the most elegant treat, don’t be ashamed to feel and give yourself what you deserve, forgive yourself for the times you disappointed yourself and acted in ways that made you to regret.

Take care of yourself and take responsibility and be accountable for your life, be willing to embrace uncertainty, it’s okay not to know if things appear strange, focus on what you have and be grateful, don’t get caught up in the lack consciousness and mentality, all beneficial change is preceded by chaos, maybe you need to loose the old self so you can create the new self.

Remember that every other relationship you have may end but the relationship you have with yourself remains forever.

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How to stop limiting beliefs

How to stop limiting beliefs is the focus of this article. I hope you will enjoy it.

 

What are limiting beliefs?

We have been downloaded with disempowering and limiting beliefs from our various cultures that accumulate into heavy baggage that burden all people existing in our society.

They teach us these negative patterns from an early age to be able to absorb them like a sponge and bear them as our identity to become our only reality and consciousness.

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How to stop limiting beliefs: Existence of other realities

We are conditioned in this way to keep us away from accessing the truth to remain contained, controlled and manipulated in certain subtle ways so as to not question and generally explore the existence of other realities which are not within our awareness.

Society instills negativity and discord into the lives of its individuals so that these negative patterns can be reinforced over and over again and pass them from one generation to another.

These patterns unleash pain, misery, suffering, chaos and all manner of traumatic situations to sustain and suppress their secret plot against the truth about humanity.

 

Stopping negative repeated patterns

These negative repeated patterns of lies and limitations are deeply ingrained in our subconscious so much so that it’s difficult to even believe the ideal and the truth as this has been our original way of life even though it is not the true intended state for us. It was sold to us to prevent people from understanding, acknowledging, claiming and exploring their real power as human beings.

These patterns have left people broken, miserable and frustrated as they grossly impact on our emotions producing dysfunctional minds, people, situations and circumstances which we have to encounter, embrace, struggle and deal with in our daily lives.

They impact our thought pattern in a distorted and destructive manner and orchestrates our resonance in ways that are damaging to us, causing people to screw up themselves really bad by the inner discussion they have within, ruminating from those patterns cause people to use their energy to harm themselves instead of using it to build themselves up by the negative self-talk that goes on in our heads and in our minds, instead of keeping it positive.

Using the energy of your thoughts

Often, we use the energy of our thoughts in an attempt to avoid bad outcomes instead of using it to create what we desire, we obviously create terrifying situations and issues capable of destroying or harming us.

We pull ourselves down by the discouraging self-talk in our heads, this is easy because the negative beliefs are already stored in our subconscious mind, we are set on auto pilot mode by this programming and naturally ruminate and release the negative patterns on our own.

The anguish, pain and sadness this has caused humanity is incredibly overwhelming from the generations past to the present day, how these patterns make people feel has never been addressed and discussed in any way as this has long been generally embraced as the only way of living.

But with the increase in suicide cases, different types of addictions, victimisation and mental health issues have made it necessary to start to question, and challenging the probable cause of these patterns. Psychologists have attempted to come up with something to add to the narrative which relates to traumatic childhood experiences which have to do with emotional abuse. Because we have been raised to be negative, we are hardly aware of how to relate in a kind, gentle and loving manner to connect deeply on an emotional level with other people.

 

Toxic way of thinking

We are familiar with the irrational and toxic way of relating which is our original unfair upbringing that has its roots in negativity, we unleash that naturally. Releasing the kind, compassionate, loving and empathetic way which is a strong part of our natural identity is difficult and unfamiliar.

Parents who are raised this way by their own parents have consistently found it hard to collect new thoughts, replaced or renew their minds and change their thoughts and behaviour to connect emotionally with their children by giving them a purpose for living and giving their existence meaning and value by suitable words attuned to their emotions they should say to validate and soothe them generally.

Rather, they tear their fragile emotions with toxic and hostile behaviour. Some parents refer to their children with derogatory names such as useless, fools, animals, idiots. When a child has done something wrong perhaps, instead of correcting the child in a healthy manner by either showing them or teaching them the right way to go, the parent unprocessed baggage, childhood wounds, trauma and brokenness is often triggered and they dump their childhood emotional baggage and frustration on the child because the child had triggered the pain, the anger of their own unprocessed emotional baggage.

However, the reaction of such a parent, reinforced the same pattern in the child, children are born formless and without knowledge of anything, it is the circumstances of their birth, the environment and the society that gives them form and shape.

Whatever you teach a child is what they absorb and reproduce, the wrong way the human society is being impacted with lies, limiting beliefs and dysfunction is currently taking a toll on the society itself and it’s not surprising that we are witnessing the collapse.

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